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Shalom Men of Torah.

Parsha Vayishlach….what can we say?  Yesterday’s portion was awesome!  Packed with so much deep and profound significance.  Not the least of which is Jacob’s encounter with a “man” whom he later describes as “the Divine”.

This event at a place called Peniel (literally, the face of El) has been discussed by many commentators through the ages.  The real question is what is this incident teaching us?  We know it was a watershed moment in Jacob’s life, but how do we put ourselves in the story?  What significance, beyond the obvious historical one, does this event at Peniel have for me?

There is lots of debate and discussion within the movement about who is Israel?  We all are at least familiar with most of the different views on this matter.  However, from a midrashic perspective allow me to offer another view.

The Torah records that as Jacob wrestled all night with the man he refused to let go.  He held on with all his might.  He did not give up.  This is Jacob’s nature.  He knows how to fight for what matters — the birthright, the blessings, for Rachel, for his flocks, etc.  When the man saw that Jacob would not relent, “I will not let you go until you bless me.” (32:27), something profound happened.  The man changed his name from Jacob to Israel.

The name Israel means “he who wrestles with El”. May I suggest that at the end of the day the final remnant of Israel will be composed of only those who, regardless of ethnicity, have continually wrestled with Hashem and persevered.  Those who are willing to overcome and prevail like Jacob will be those who truly inherit the eternal promises given to the seed of Avraham Avinu.

What are some signs that you are wrestling with Hashem (this is not an exhaustive list, of course):

  • Do you find your thoughts more often than not contemplating the weekly Torah portion, the lessons from Tzadik class, the daily prayers, etc?
  • Are you really concerned about should I where my tzitzit in or out? — I want to keep the commandment but I don’t want to offend anyone.
  • What is the proper approach to kashrut?  Should I separate or not?
  • Are you mindful of those who the Torah says we should honor — the elderly, widows, etc.?
  • Do you enjoy the fellowship of your community and can’t wait until the next time we are together?
  • Are you willing to cast off old preconceived notions and understandings for the sake of truth when it confronts you?
  • Does keeping the mitzvot bring joy or oy?  Is His burden light and His yoke easy?
  • Is taking the Name in vain (the way you carry yourself) always a concern for which you have genuine fear?
  • Are you willing to separate yourself from the world, the visible church and even perhaps on occasion from traditional Judaism for the sake of the Master?

If you can honestly answer “yes” to these questions than congratulations, you are Israel. If you cannot honestly answer “yes”, then what are you waiting for?  Get back in the wrestling match?

Those who profess a faith in G-d but have no concern over these questions and the things of G-d, but are rather more concerned about careers, health insurance, paying bills, their next vacation, entertainment, Monday night football and all the other distractions that can so easily ensnare us, are not wrestling with Hashem.  Therefore, are they Israel? — probably not.

The Torah describes the price Jacob paid for contending with man. The man pulls his hip out of socket…ouch!  Consequently, Jacob walked with a limp from that point onward.  That is to say, he never walked the same again.  Brethren, the sign of those who wrestle with Hashem is their walk (halacha) changes forever more.

Consider this analogy.  Picture yourself standing in the middle of a busy highway with a large freight truck coming straight for you at a high rate of speed with no hope of escape.  If you have an encounter with a large, freight truck — something about you must change.  There is no way you can remain the same.  Is not our G-d even bigger than a freight truck?

Brethren, it is impossible to have an encounter with the Adonai Elohim Tzvaot and remain the same.  Therefore, if we are part of the remnant it is because we have and continue to wrestle with Hashem and His Word.  And, consequently we are changed.  The way we think, the way we talk, the way we eat, the way we dress, the way we conduct business, the way we relate to others, our sexual practices, our priorities….everything about us and every aspect of our lives must change.  That is the sign!  Are we not new creatures?  Has not the old man passed away?

“He that overcomes shall inherit all things, and I shall be his G-d and he shall be my son.” Rev.21:7

Shavua Tov,

Avigdor ben Avraham


by Kefa

When it comes to the issue of reputations, the visible church seems to take on a passive ‘ignorance is bliss’ mentality; they stress the power of the conscience, teaching the mass faction of approval-seeking teens that “it’s not important what others may think of you, as long as you know deep inside that you’re doing the right thing.” Although this behavior may battle ‘self-inconfidence’, it doesn’t line up with Scripture.

Solomon comments on the value of a good reputation at least twice in the Tanakh:

“A good name is to be more desired than great wealth, favor is better than silver and gold.”

Proverbs 22:1

“A good name is better than a good ointment…”

Ecclesiastes 7:1

I like to think that Solomon may have learned this the hard way; he certainly had wealth in abundance, as well as a good stock of valuable ointments (speculation). Perhaps his indiscreet amassing of wives or the preceding meddling with the Torah’s words earned him a very undesirable reputation (or at least among the women). Whether he wrote out of experience or through his G-d-given wisdom, Solomon’s words should not be taken lightly.

In the Apostolic Scriptures, Paul confirms Solomon’s wisdom when he pays for four other Nazarite Vow completion ceremonies.  Let’s look at the passage in Acts 21:

“They have been informed that you teach all the Jews who live among the Gentiles to turn away from Moses, telling them not to circumcise their children or live according to our customs. What shall we do? They will certainly hear that you have come, so do what we tell you. There are four men with us who have made a vow. Take these men, join in their purification rites and pay their expenses, so that they can have their heads shaved. Then everybody will know there is no truth in these reports about you, but that you yourself are living in obedience to the law…

…The next day Paul took the men and purified himself along with them. Then he went to the temple to give notice of the date when the days of purification would end and the offering would be made for each of them.”

Acts 21:20-24,26

Even though Paul knew inside that he wasn’t teaching against the Torah, he chose to go through an expensive clearing of his reputation, rather than disregarding the circulating rumors.

But what is a reputation? Merriam-Webster defines reputation as ‘overall quality or character as seen or judged by people in general’, but I think of our reputations as a long distance representation of the fruit of our walk in Messiah. Preserved carefully, a good reputation is a powerful weapon in the believer’s arsenal, while a single stain can hurl a devout life of Torah into a presentation of hypocrisy.

In the coming weeks, consciously protect your reputation by following Paul’s advice and live a pattern of good works:

Likewise, exhort the young men to be sober-minded, in all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works; in doctrine showing integrity, reverence, incorruptibility, sound speech that cannot be condemned, that one who is an opponent may be ashamed, having nothing evil to say of you.

Titus 2:7

In the case that you are misrepresented, ardently pursue the clearing of your name, regardless of the cost, knowing with certainty that the value of a good reputation far surpasses that of silver and gold.

by Tzadikguy

Today I was reading a chapter entitled “Responsibility” from the excellent book, Toward a Meaningful Life. In general, responsibility may be easily viewed as specific tasks assigned to us throughout our life. We are responsible for our grades in school, for our pets, for our money, for our car, etc..Often times a person’s responsibilities are selfish or materialistic, and they are quick to relieve themselves of responsibility when there is a problem.

Now, let us stop and take a look at life and the reason for living. Why has HaShem allowed us to wake up alive and healthy today? It is so that we may fulfill our responsibility as human beings. We are here to draw closer to HaShem and be a light to the nations. We are responsible for fulfilling our purpose by making the correct decisions. By considering the purpose of life, we are able to accurately understand our foundational responsibility. Once we have this understanding then our specific responsibilities become more focused and purposed on the most important things in life. If we are focused on personal gain, acceptance, happiness, or any other selfish desire then it will have a direct effect on what we perceive to be our responsibility. We are responsible for keeping Torah, being a light to those around us, influencing our community and society, and using our special gifts and talents to help and improve the world. Free-will is a gracious gift from HaShem. Will you chose to take responsibility and start making the right decisions?

Of course, the most important element is implementation and action. How can you take responsibility in your workplace? In your community? What are some good habits to develop to remind us of our purpose in life?

by Kefa

I’m sure we’ve all gotten some sort of request by our employer for some weekend work sometime in our lives (ok, I actually haven’t :P) A quick favor turns into an agitated plea, which turns into an irritated requisite, which turns into an ultimatum; your job or your religion.

There are three sides to a response:

  • Honor G-d, honor the Torah, and honor the Sabbath; never work on a Saturday, whatever the cost.
  • Avoid any Saturday work until it puts your family’s well-being in jeopardy (job-threatening).
  • And, of course, you could just work on Shabbat…

If you’re an option 3 person, you can stop reading here.

A lot of men are torn between their responsibilities as a husband/father/provider and their obligation to the G-d of Israel. G-d commands us in Exodus 20,

Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy. Six days you shall labor and do all your work, but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the LORD your G-d. On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your manservant or maidservant, nor your animals, nor the alien within your gates. For in six days the LORD made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, but he rested on the seventh day. Therefore the LORD blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy.

Pretty straight forward, don’t you think? You may argue that G-d values life over the Sabbath. It’s for this reason that we find no problem lying to save a life. The Preservation of Life trumps any other mitzvah in the Torah. But can providing money for your family be considered the Preservation of Life?

Is the necessity of  financial security, a roof under which to sleep, and food to eat an influence caused by the world? Perhaps we need to re-examine our convictions.

I would turn your attention to Joseph, son of Jacob, who was faced with pleasure and security on one side and his convictions and conscience on the other. Sleeping with Potiphar’s wife would have saved him from a bad reputation, losing his job, and ultimately ending up in jail (not to distract from the point, but if had slept with her he also wouldn’t have had to flash the other servants). But of course, he chose to disregard what the world considered valuable and he glorified G-d’s Name and His Torah.

Adultery may seem a far cry from the Sabbath, but is the situation much different? “Break commandment (one of those special ten, no less!) for reward.” What is the difference from your employer saying, “You will lose your job if you don’t lie to this prospect about the value of the item,” or, “You’re fired unless you steal our competition’s business plan,” or, “You can say goodbye to your job if you don’t come with the boys down to the strip club”? What makes the Sabbath a lesser commandment that you would make an excuse to break it? Have you no shame?!

“How can we serve G-d if we starve to death? How can we be a light to the world if our children are unclothed, unhoused, or unfed?”

Is it really our place to question the Will of G-d?! From where do we draw the authority to assume that G-d will not provide for the ones who love him, as demonstrated by their adherence to his commands?

If you are truly convicted of your beliefs, you will be willing to suffer for what you choose to do or choose not to do; you will accept the consequences and trust G-d for the omnipotent father that he is.

The king’s heart is like channels of water in the hand of the LORD; He turns it wherever He wishes.

Proverbs 21:1

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